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Ten
thousand books tell women they need to change.
Now it’s his turn.
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"Over
the last thirteen years
that I have been on the
radio there have only been a few books that
have stood out, that can
change your life, Mike Dugan's
"Men Fake
Foreplay" is one of
those books." -
Linda Strassberg - KTKK
Radio
"There
is a deep, penetrating intimacy throughout
this work. While this book is also wildly
funny, I laughed my way right into an
understanding of some profound male wisdom
... Like
a true comedian, he entertains
you with a few jokes and then once he has
your attention and respect, there is a
place to discuss communication, feelings
and sexual ethics." -
Rebecca Johnson, TheRebeccaReview.com
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.com Top 10 Books
for
Men - Voted
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Books written for men to
help them understand their own
issues as
well as issues that
may be affecting their
relationships with women. |
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In a book filled with the
kind of wry comic twists that have earned him an Emmy Award and
appearances on the Tonight Show, Dugan takes an
unflinching look at men's experiences with trust,
responsibility, intimacy, commitment, masculinity, role models,
shock jocks, cheating, street-corner sex education, and,
especially, relationships with women. He reveals devatatingly
accurate secrets about the male thought process that some
men might be happier kept quiet - all punctuated with spot-on
humor.
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Based on
Dugan’s comedy performance of the same name, this quick little
look at men’s role in the battle of the sexes actually offers more
than funny vignettes and witty one-liners. After admitting his
emotional shortcomings ("I don’t have a lot of relationship
skills because all of my training is in casual sex") and his
domestic failures ("I’ve done my laundry in shampoo"), Dugan takes
on such issues as communication and commitment in a tone that is
both friendly and frank ("I believe that owning a dick entitles me
to nothing but a responsibility to govern it"). Going along his
observational comedy way, he takes shots at what he sees as the
hypocrisies of Howard Stern and relationship guru John Gray and
bemoans the fact that some teenage boys get their sexual education
from pornography because "adult males have abdicated their
responsibility to represent alternatives." A comic on stage and a
moralist at heart, Dugan wants to help men "to somehow reconcile a
naturally unwieldy sex drive with a sense of responsibility to
those we love." The result is an enjoyable effort that harks back
to the Golden Rule: "the measure of a man will be found in how he
treats others." |
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From
the May 2005 issue "What We're Reading"
section ...
"Faking - it's been the object of Seinfeld sketches
and endless Cosmopolitan polls. However, the faux pas is
on the other foot in Men
Fake Foreplay … And Other Lies That Are True (Rodale).
Writer and comedian
Mike Dugan reveals the hilariously
twisted inner-workings of men's sexual minds, including
the reasoning behind their fear of commitment and their
odd sexual ethics." |
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TheRebeccaReview.com
Top
10 Amazon Reviewer
 Passionately
Honest June 20, 2005 |
"Ultimately, the forces outside of us
have little significance other than being a
distraction. If men look to an illusionary
outside world for answers, we will continue to
get illusionary answers. There are challenges
we need to face, alone in the dark, to learn
to channel our strengths." ~ Mike
Dugan
Mike Dugan
reveals all the challenges he faced in the
past and how he thought his way into an
intimate and fulfilling relationship by taking
an honest look at male sexuality. He takes on
the lone wolf, the dragon and the problems of
antisocial behavior.
"Men Fake
Foreplay" is an honest look at male
sexuality. This book will not only lead men to
deeply fulfilling and profound spiritual
moments, women will find the insights and
understanding to be intellectually satisfying
and emotionally fulfilling. It is rare for a
wildly funny book to also steal my heart.
Mike Dugan
succeeds where many fear to even begin. There
is insight into why women don't want you to
change who you are, but instead want you to
become more aware of who you are. He asks:
"Where are the gentlemen?"
Though a variety of
intellectually intriguing examples, Mike Dugan
shows the need for male role models in our
society. I loved the story of the elephants
and his comments about defeating inner
dragons. This book is not just an analysis of
the male/female connection; it is more an
analysis of how men connect with their deepest
self. Mike Dugan reveals how a boy becomes a
man and explores the choices a man makes once
he takes on the responsibility of caring for
the women in his life.
There is a
deep, penetrating intimacy throughout this
work. While this book is also wildly funny, I
laughed my way right into an understanding of
some profound male wisdom. One of the best
lines in this book: "A man's power should
be wielded compassionately." Like a true
comedian, he entertains you with a few jokes
and then once he has your attention and
respect, there is a place to discuss
communication, feelings and sexual ethics.
It took me a
few minutes to get through the last two pages.
I couldn't see the words. This is what I
wanted from all the men in my life. I want to
feel safe and nurtured. I want there to be
safe places in my life where I'm loved as a
soul.
~TheRebeccaReview.com
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I
first heard Mike Dugan at Jongleurs, a comedy club at
Camden Lock, North London. He came on late when half
the audience was ripped, sat down on a barstool and
started to talk. He looked like a nice guy, a distinct
disadvantage in that part of London where nice guys
don’t finish last, they finish up toast. But Mike's
opening lines resonated with the audience: ‘I was
the youngest child in my family and by the time they
had got around to me it was pretty much ‘No heroin
in the living room’. ‘Michael, you’re not using
the good spoons, are you?’” That got a big laugh
and it soon became apparent that Mike Dugan had
something important to say on a subject that is
normally taboo in North London: relationships.
“I have one piece of advice for men,” he said and
every male was riveted. ‘If you break up with a
woman, you had better do it smoothly, or you will
never get another good one again. Women have an
intelligence network that rivals the CIA. They make
the Internet look like two tin cans with string
tied between them. I guarantee if you screw over a
woman tonight, by tomorrow morning you'll be on a
shit list in Afghanistan....” There followed a
wonderful half-hour of philosophizing on trust,
responsibility, intimacy, commitment, masculinity,
role models, lap dance clubs, marriage, cheating and
pornography, sprinkled with some snappy
one-liners, such as: “Sex between two people is
beautiful – provided you can get between the right
two people…” and “Women are basically
researchers. Especially in bed. That only looks like a
negligee: it's really a lab coat... ” At
the end guys with bullet-heads and no ears were
looking mistily into the eyes of their girlfriends.
Now Mike Dugan has placed his philosophy between the
covers of a book, Men Fake Foreplay… And Other
Lies that are True.The
book
expands and develops his stage show in interesting and
thought-provoking
ways.
The
punchline is so wise it hurts: “I didn't have to
figure out women in order to be happy. It was
never
about finding the right woman. It was about
becoming the right man.” Men Fake Foreplay
isn’t a cynical, exploitative tome designed to make
women feel neurotic and vulnerable.
Rather, it celebrates “la difference”
and gives us all hope that maybe one day we’ll be
able to behave a little better towards the opposite
sex. I wish I’d read it when I was 16.
- Peter Thompson
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